The Dress

Oh Lordy. The dress. 

The dress is kind of the VIP of the wedding day. 

It can be pivotal in deciding the theme, the hair accessories and style, the grooms attire, flowers and that’s just a few examples. 

I would say that in the main the dress is always the brides favourite thing to buy but so many come to me for their hair trial doubting their desisions or not remembering how it does up and some actually hating it! 

It can be on occasion quite a long time from the purchase to the hair and makeup trial. That may account for the memory loss but the hating it after a fitting is something else. 

One bride of mine loved her dress but doubted it also as not being ‘her’. One day she left a magazine open at (on purpose) the page of an almost identical dress. Of course the fiancé was meant to see it. He innocently  said “oh I hope your dress isn’t like that”. Not what she wanted to hear. So there it began. Weeks of dilemma. Should she change it for another?  Should she keep it and risk him hating it? Then she began to hate it anyway. So at the trial and on the wedding day I was working with a bride who hated her dress. The pressure was on me to make her hair and makeup absolutely perfect to carry her through. Safe to say it did my part of the deal and actually she messaged me after to say her groom thought the dress was amazing. I would say it was because the woman he loved was in it and he’d have liked her in rags as long as she was going to be forever his.

More recently a bride hated her dress. Paid a lot of money for it initially and had, had modifications to make it better but nothing has helped. She can no longer afford any more changes to it. I advise a few this she could do when I assestained why she did not like it but as yet I’ve yet to do the wedding so will have to update you. 

I do however know that the wedding dresses as beautiful as they are, are not what the groom is really about.

He wants you. He wants you glowing with happiness. Not for the dress but because your getting married. 

Try not to doubt your choice of dress my lovely ladies. It will all be perfect as he does not doubt you ❤

Experience over youth 

Hello 😀 

Choosing a stylist and or makeup artist is so individual to each person and their type of event. All kinds of criteria must go through customers minds when flicking over @hitched and other supplier websites. Hopefully my website ‘www.bigdayhairandmakeup’ radiates my warm friendly approach yet very professional brand and it appeals to all. 

Then when a booking has been placed and we have finally meet I have found that many customers are so relieved when I arrive and am a normal (well as normal as can be 😂) person, willing to listen to their ideas as well as lightly suggesting my own and at the end of the makeover they don’t look like a clown! They look amazing and how they dreamed they could. #looklikethestaryouare 

Yet as I have gotten older (and wiser) I have often questioned if I am indeed now too old for the modern bride and the ‘on point ‘ women. In light if all the fashionable on line tutorials and current trends which my own face is not comfortable adorning it’s often a thought I should concede to the youthful just qualified or self taught artists that have flooded the market and zip up my kit case for good.

Until …… just this week I was told I only look 35 …. love that girl and my own boys said I could be from a distance a teenager …. love those boys. Not only that but a trial on a brilliant lady who is to remarry in her forties made me realise that you are never too old and that my skill is a precious one. A skill that makes people’s day, a skill that can improve a life, make someone more confident and these very emotions will be frozen on a photo and cherished for years to come.

I am physically fit… probably more so than most young women so that’s not an issue carry my very large kit up flights of hotel stairs. Yes I am more wrinkly but not quite at horror movie stage just yet and standing a long way from the mirror is always a very good plan on a tired day 😂. 

I also am keeping up with the hair and makeup trends. Albeit some products are totally unneccesary, over priced and gimmicky. Not that I dislike them all but I have not been a fan of every fad even when I myself were impressionable and naive , in those distance memory years I was always very happy , if not more happy, looking dare I say it different to other people. 

As much as some young women look amazing with all the contouring (which is actually a very old concept) on a daily basis just trudging to work and back I can’t think how shocking they look with no makeup to the young gentleman who has no idea of what a natural girl looks like anymore and they wake next to her with her eyebrows smeared all over her pillow and her strip lashes looking like a moustache as they slid in the night slowly south. Its also like some kind of cloning process. It’s also sad as I can see a beauty that is actually being hidden by so much makeup.  

Both my sons and husband are not keen on that ‘look’ . So why as a makeup artist , I must admit it , it’s is so much fun to get a face and go to town with a full on makeover and totally change someone . Polar oppositely it’s so great to get a woman that needs to look like her wonderful self but on a very good day! 

So I guess while I still enjoy myself, I am in touch with all ages needs and have a steady hand I should stick around on the hair and makeup artistry scene and give those young inexperienced artists a good benchmark to achieve. 

Look forward to seeing which way you choose to look xx

Welcome back 

I am have been shameful at this blog. Lots has happened and I have met so many brides since my last blog from VIPs to corporate events to 75 year old brides with shingles, to zombie walks, to searching on my hands and knees for a lost wedding ring!

Also its always tricky to spill the bridal beans on events at a particular wedding without it being a bit unethical and totally obvious ! 

I promise to try harder! 

For now you can look at my Facebook and instragram accounts of Big Day Hair and Makeup. 

Chat again soon xx

My Wedding

It’s only fair that I begin with my own wedding. It was not perfect. I learned a lot and hindsight is a wonderful thing.  Hopefully I could pass on some lessons to my customers and readers.

My initial turmoil was with the dress. I fell in love with more than extremely expensive frock and was told in no uncertain terms NO by my soon to be husband. I sulked and searched, searched  and sulked whilst looking for a similar one, and to be fair there probably was one but my heart was set as much on that dress as my chosen groom so I had to have it. Luckily with some negotiations, a sale day at the bridal shop on that designer and a change of material I managed to get it on  a promise I would sell it… of course I never did. It was far too precious. Promises don’t count out of wedlock do they?

Then came the bridesmaid problems which I will cover more in a later blog.

I had planned my day to military precision. That was a mistake. I should have been a bit more general and allowed ‘problem time’ and I should have informed everyone a lot more clearly of how things would proceed to stop so many questions on the morning. I should also have informed God that it was not to rain at all as I had a dream of sipping champagne on the patio looking like a princess. No open top car for me then as the rain loomed all day and then the heavens opened. Yes I do hear its good luck if it rains on the wedding day. But seeing as I was not a farmer growing crops in a drought it did not feel that way at the time. I mean August is supposed to be sunny ….. What a load of old tosh .

I remember confirming and re confirming every service booked every month, week, day… hour but whilst this was a bit OCD it did make me feel better. It did not however prevent the hairdresser (I didn’t own makeup) I was using breaking her ankle, our car driver getting lost on the way to the church and to our reception making us very late for both ( missing vital champagne time and the guest thinking we had done a runner) , Nor did it prevent my pricey dress getting tyre black on it (how nice they did that to smarten the car for me!!! GRRR).

So one of the moments I dreamed of was standing at the end of the isle with my own dear now departed dad looking stunning. All I remember at that point was swearing in front of the vicar about my dirty dress which everyone kept saying ‘no one will see’ I could see damn it and that’s all that mattered to me at that point.

You can also never organise the way people behave drunk, sober young or old. That’s annoying. As they tend to do what they want. Like plant a huge red lipstick kiss on your cheek which shows in all the photos (yes that happened to me), like not sitting to the table plan and my having to get cross as no one could sit down (yes that happened to me) like people treading on your beloved dress like it was a door mat (yes that further ruined the dress… cry cry)

But with all the negative came a MASSIVE positive.  The moment we said our vows. My groom shed a tear and kissed my wedding ring and we became man a wife and then nothing else really did matter.

Big Day Hair and Make up’s – Big Day Blogs

Why did I start this blog? Well its all the brides fault. They are always asking for what disasters I have witnessed, they ask me if  I have ever met as odd a family as there’s are (and oh yes there is no ‘normal’ family), about how most brides and groom meet etc. So I will now begin to report back, without naming names of course on what happens during a days work in the mobile hair and makeup world. I will apologise now for the erratic timings of the news and for my lack of secretarial skills in typing. I tend to type as I speak so ‘bear with’. Happy reading ………